“Like many women of my generation, outwardly I seemed to have it all. A happy family, four children, a business, a grad degree, friends, a nice home. But inwardly, I was a frazzled mess of nerves. I was constantly second-guessing myself. I had a harsh inner critic and I was always doing too much, fueling my anxiety into busyness and then collapsing in exhaustion at the end of the day.
I tried a lot of things to change. I meditated. I tried positive thinking. I read every self-help book I could find. Even though I was lost, I always felt that there was a part of me that was capable of better. A stronger part of me that was somehow trying to get out.
When I witnessed my two older children start to model my behaviour - being hard on themselves when they made mistakes, I got serious about figuring out a way to change. I enrolled in coaching programs and I found a therapist. I trained in somatics, meditation, positive psychology and philosophy and eventually I cobbled together an approach that worked for me. An approach that can be easily summed up with three simple words: Practice. Practice. Practice.
No matter where you are starting from, you can always change. Thanks to neuroplasticity in our brains, we can build new pathways and new habits. If, like me, you want to become more confident and courageous, then identify a new courageous habit and do it every day –without fail – for 45 days. That’s where most people get tripped up. They give up on their new habit before it gets ingrained. To stay motivated, connect it with something really important to you. Remind yourself daily why you want more confidence and courage. For me, it is - and always will be - my kids. I’ll do anything for them, including becoming the strong, powerful version of myself I am growing into.” - Liz Doyle Harmer, Life Coach